Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Live With No Regrets

There are moments in life that take our breath away, good and bad.  I’ve had more than my share over the last couple weeks, and sometimes it’s hard to take it all in.  I feel small and fragile in one moment, and I’m an unstoppable force the next.  People come and go from your life and they all change you, from the sweet woman who came through my line at work and suggested a new way to cook spaghetti squash, to the friends I have had for my whole life and continue to love me for me.

I remember a man I knew from the gym.  He was a little older, overweight, he drove a cab and he wanted to fight.  He was there every day, even if he had to take the bus.  He was losing weight and improving, humble and willing to learn from anyone.  Time and politics moved us to different gyms.   The fight community is small and we would still run into each other from time to time and it was always awesome to see how he was growing.

There’s no gentle way to say that he was shot and killed weeks before his first fight.  He had worked years toward this goal, and never got there.  As tragic as this story seems, I think the real tragedy would have been if he had given up.  From experience, I bet he woke up that morning thinking about his fight, a few butterflies in his stomach and a little smile.  I bet there wasn’t any regret for the time he’d put in at the gym.  Truly pursuing one’s passion is a victory in itself.

I struggle and I sacrifice, but I don’t suffer.  I sweat, I bleed, and I cry, but I am blessed because I know what I want.  Working toward that is never work in vain, even if I never get there.  I will not have regret in my final moments, because I gave it everything I could.


Rest in peace Blackie, your spirit lives in my heart and continues to inspire me. May we all wake up on our last morning holding our dreams, or at least reaching for them.

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